Every man in a relationship wants to be a good partner. Out of all the millions of people, though, only a few manage to sustain meaningful and long-lasting connections.

Why does this happen, though? Why do some men succeed in being good husbands, while others fail and end up in divorce?

Most of the time, it all comes down to being a better man for her – a man who is masculine, productive, kind, and reliable.

In this article, I’ll share 9 ways to be a good partner, explain their importance, and offer practical tips to implement them. Let’s begin.

9 Ways to Be a Better Man for Her

There are countless ways to be a good partner, but in this article, we’re going to focus on the most important ones. If you implement the advice here, I’ll guarantee you: you’ll be a better husband than 90% of men out there.

The first thing you should do is practice honesty.

1: Be Honest With Her

Honesty is the foundation of all healthy relationships. None of them can thrive and prosper without mutual trust and understanding.

Relationships often fail because partners become too skeptical, controlling, and oppressive towards each other. Lack of honesty and respect destroys emotional connection, without which a relationship cannot exist.

Start being more honest with your girlfriend. Tell her what’s on your mind, share stories about yourself, and don’t be afraid to open up to her.

Of course, you shouldn’t get overly emotional or share every single detail about yourself, but you shouldn’t lock yourself up either. Don’t try to manipulate your partner into liking you, but show her that you’re a good man who can be trusted.

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2: Stop Putting Her as a Priority

Yes, you’ve read the heading right: stop putting your woman as your priority. This sounds extremely counterintuitive, so let me explain.

When you spend countless hours with her without spending time alone, you become needy and emotionally dependent. It is because your main source of happiness becomes your relationship, and therefore, to stay happy, you cling to your partner more than you should.

This often results in conflicts, broken boundaries, and addiction to your partner, which ultimately lead to a traumatic breakup.

You should have your own life and interests beyond your relationship. By spending more time alone, you’ll gain the opportunity to grow as a person, become effective, achieve goals, and make moments with your woman even more special.

Other than that, women are attracted to men who put their goals and alone time first, because it signals that they’re confident, content with themselves, and can provide for their children.

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How to Spend Time Alone Productively

Focus on your own goals, passions, and put massive efforts into them. Adopt a morning routine, read great books, play chess, learn high-income skills to freelance (or start your own business).

Get a creative hobby to express yourself. You can pick any of these:

• Writing (stories, poems, blog articles, novels, books)
• Painting
• Graphic design
• Video editing
• Copywriting
• Inventing stuff

In short, find your favorite work, masculine purpose in life, and obsess over it. Spend at least 2 hours a day working on your craft and getting better at what you do.

I know, it’s uncomfortable. But do you want to be like 90% of guys who scroll, play games, and jack off all day? Or do you want to use your potential to the fullest, earn more money, and be a better man for her?

The answer is the latter. So don’t hesitate, and start spending some time alone working on something you find meaningful.

The next thing you should do is spend more time on fitness.

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3: Spend More Time on Fitness

How much you exercise and train your body directly impacts all other areas of your life. It isn’t hard to prove:

The healthier you are, the easier you find it to work and focus, which leads to better income and finances. The more you exercise, the better your mental health becomes, which improves conversations with your woman.

Additionally, building a muscular, aesthetic body makes her more attracted to you, as it signals that you’re masculine and can protect her. Spending more time on fitness will pay off by improving your sex life and expression of your genes.

If you haven’t already, start lifting weights and/or doing calisthenics 4 times a week. Include more protein, vegetables (spinach, leafy greens, carrots, potatoes, beets), nuts, and fruits in your diet, while eating less processed foods.

Spend 40 minutes to 2 hours in the gym per session, and do the most effective exercises for aesthetic muscle groups. Hydrate yourself during training, and take a cold shower after you finish to boost energy levels.

This way you’ll increase your quality as a man, preserve her attraction towards you, and make your relationship last.

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4: Stop Watching Porn to Be a Better Man for Her

The next important thing you should do to be a better man for her is stop watching porn. It is an evil, unproductive habit that serves no benefit to you, and deals great damage to your relationship.

It makes you more depressed, anxious, addicted, and elevates your sexual expectations to unrealistic levels. The more you watch porn, the less attracted you become to normal women, and the harder you find it to control lust.

Research shows that over a half of breakups involved having one of the partners heavily indulging in pornography. It means that porn is the destroyer of relationships. You must cease watching it not just for your woman, but for yourself.

Learn to control your lust and direct it towards more meaningful activities. Whenever you feel sexual temptation, take a few deep breaths, and focus on doing something productive, like doing pushups or meaningful work.

This way you’ll make great progress at reducing your porn consumption, and quit it entirely after a few months or a year. By this time, your brain will heal from the damage, and you’ll provide your girl the love she deserves.

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5: Cultivate Presence and Mindfulness

Most modern people aren’t present. When you try to talk to them, it’s as if they are physically there, but wander somewhere else mentally.

With the rise of short-form content, people have become less Present during conversations, and barely pay attention to what their companion is saying.

That’s because the average attention span has decreased down to 9 seconds, and racing thoughts have become a common problem for many people.

I have written about how you shouldn’t prioritize your woman, and how you should spend more time alone. But spending it on hobbies and useful work is different from wasting it on bad habits, like scrolling.

In the first case, you use your mind’s potential, put its abilities to the limit, and generate products that benefit people. In the second case, you destroy your brain, overstimulate it, and eliminate the quality of conversations with your woman.

Stop wasting time on social media, or at least reduce it down to 1 hour a day. Meditate for 10-20 minutes every morning to purify your mind. Whenever you feel stressed, take a few deep breaths, and go outside for a walk.

Aside from being present, you should also learn to be a good listener.

6: Listen Actively to Be a Better Man for Her

Few people are present during conversations, and even fewer pay full attention to the other person. They either scroll on their phones when someone tries to talk to them, or think about random stuff without hearing what their partner says.

This doesn’t need an explanation: if you make a person feel undesired by consistently ignoring them, they’ll abandon their attempts to connect and talk to you.

That is why, to be a better man for her, you should pay full attention to your woman, and especially towards what she says.

Set 2-3 hours a day to spend time with your partner. During this time, don’t distract yourself with your phone, email, or social media. Maintain eye contact, listen carefully without interrupting, respond to her stories with questions, and make relevant comments.

People in general, not just women, love to feel desired and important. By showing full interest in your woman, you’ll become more desired yourself, since you satisfy her emotional need of feeling important.

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7: Consume Less Red Pill Content

If you don’t consume red pill content – congratulations, you are a healthy human being. For those of you who do watch it though, I have a message for you: take a break from it.

I get it. It feels satisfying to listen about female nature, and see bad girls get owned. But do you realize that there are high quality women in this world too?

They don’t come without flaws, but neither do any of us. Over the last few years, red pill content has become less about genuine self-improvement, and more about manipulating young women into casual sex.

Additionally, red pill content can cause the hasty generalization bias, and make you see your partner as a bad person, even if she objectively isn’t.

Take a break from red pill content, and learn to cultivate good character traits in yourself. Be kind towards your woman and other people you meet, help people with their problems, value emotional connection over short-term hookups.

Quit negging, researching PUA terminology, and doing other kinds of manipulative behavior. Remember: honesty is the basis of healthy relationships. Commit to being a good quality man that is strong, yet kind and supportive at the same time.

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8: Always Keep Your Word to Be a Better Man for Her

Many people in this world aren’t reliable. They throw words around, tell others what they’re planning to do, but take no real action. They say one thing, but do another, ruining all trust and respect for themselves.

Reliability, just like honesty, is the foundation of relationships. A man who keeps his word shows his partner that he can be a good father, solve problems, and protect his family.

Before you give promises to others, learn to keep promises you give yourself. Set yourself a goal (bench press 100 kg, learn copywriting), promise that you’ll work daily towards it, and execute.

You will fail on some days, and you’ll inevitably have setbacks. The key is to keep pushing forward and achieve what you said you’ll achieve.

Building self-reliance will build both your self-respect and reliability. This will improve interactions with your woman, deepen your bond, and make it last.

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9: Develop Empathy and Emotional Intelligence

More and more people are becoming lonely these days. Experts explain this with the rise of social media and decline in popularity of third spaces, like cafes.

You may ask me: how is this relevant to becoming a good man? Well, another reason for the loneliness epidemic that many ignore is – people suck more than they used to.

The Internet has made countless people more narcissistic, rude, selfish, self-righteous, and unable to consider other people’s perspectives. How can you connect with people emotionally when they’re only occupied with proving their righteousness?

You can become a better partner by standing out from the crowd. Learn to be kind, empathetic, and understanding towards your woman. Whenever she expresses her opinion, look at the situation from her perspective.

Kindness is perceived by many as a weakness. It is not. A kind man is a man who’s not afraid of being different from others, and offers great value to both his family and society.

Be there for your woman when she needs you. Be polite and respectful in your conversations. Keep prioritizing your purpose and development, but always let your partner know you’re grateful for her.

Once again, this approach will push away many women. But that’s a good thing: by being a good person, you can filter out bad partners, and acquire one who’ll be a high quality wife.

It’s not about how many women you fuck. It’s about how deep and fulfilling your bond is. Remember this, brother.

Be a Better Man for Her

Relationships and marriages are at an all time low. Men hate women, women hate men, and genders are drifting apart from each other.

Living a single life is good, and has many benefiuts. But if you decide to get into a relationship, you should know how to be a good partner. There are 9 simple ways to do so:

• Be honest with her;
• Put your goals above your woman;
• Spend more time on fitness;
• Stop watching porn;
• Cultivate presence and mindfulness;
• Listen actively more than you speak;
• Consume less red pill content;
• Always keep your word;
• Develop kindness and empathy.

All of these are simple and easy to do. These strategies will make you a better man for her, and deepen your relationship while the others fall apart.

Work on yourself, develop your masculinity, and be a good person. Take care, and see you soon, comrade.

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