Sigma males. The “introverted alphas”. The objects of focus for countless Internet memes.

Many people have heard of the term, but only a few have truly tried to understand this personality type. It is clouded with mystery because of how different it is from the average person.

Who exactly are sigma males? What are their main character traits? What can one do to be more like them?

In this article, I want to answer these questions, refute myths about this personality type, and give 9 strategies to help you be a sigma male. Let’s begin.

Who is a Sigma Male?

First, we need to define who a sigma male is. A sigma male is an introverted man who puts his goals, pursuits, and aspirations as a priority. They are often described as “introverted alphas”, because they possess similar personality traits, but prefer to be by themselves.

While other men fit into the social dominance hierarchy, sigma males prefer to stay out of it. They do not like to be limited by societal expectations and forge their own path in life.

Sigma Male Personality Traits

Before we begin learning how to be a sigma male, we should take a look at these men’s main personality traits. It’s important to note that they can vary from man to man, and that there is no 100% exact personality you should fit yourself into.

With that being said, the most important quality of sigma males’ is their introversion and individuality.

1: They are Introverted and Individualistic

In contrast to the outgoing and extroverted alphas who always seek out spotlight, sigmas are more solitary and introverted.

They prefer to spend their time working on their business, passion projects, and hobbies instead of going out to parties.

It doesn’t mean that they’re antisocial or that they hate talking to people. They simply prefer time alone, as it allows them to recharge, learn, and get new ideas.

You’ll rarely see them in the spotlight, doing some Internet challenge just to get validation from peers. They feel comfortable in their own skin and do not need external approval to feel worthy.

That is why they spend most of their time alone – working, creating, and pushing their abilities to the limit. Working more than the average person gives them the opportunity to excel at what they do, and provide more value to society.

2: They are Ambitious and Purposeful

Speaking about providing value. Sigma males are extremely ambitious and purposeful people. They know exactly who they are, what they want, and put in daily effort to achieve their goals.

While most people prefer the safety of a 9-5 job, these men take calculated risks to achieve meaningful goals. Many entrepreneurs, artists, writers, actors, and other high-achieving people are often introverts who focus on their own journey.

It often means that they decline invitations to social events and spend their evenings at home, making progress towards their goals. Of course, they do stay in touch with their friends, but sigma males rarely make social life their priority.

It seems sad to some people that sigma males spend so much time on their work, thinking that they’re wasting their time and enjoyment. That is not true.

Introverted men find meaning and fulfillment in the work they do, and the value they bring to society. They find work rewarding, not soul-crushing. And that is what sets them apart from average people.

3: They are Intelligent and Introspective

Sigma males spend a lot of time by themselves, learning new things and working on their projects. By doing this, they also develop great intelligence and introspectiveness.

Ordinary people often struggle with solving problems, as they find it hard to analyze complex concepts, find patterns, and create relevant solutions. That’s not the case for introverts.

They spend hours upon hours of time searching for answers to different questions and reasons for common societal problems. They observe topics and situations from different perspectives, often developing products or methods that eliminate problems holistically.

Sigma males’ introspectiveness and intelligence helps them become great thinkers and businessmen that take the initiative and drive society forward.

4: They are Adaptive and Flexible

In life, challenges always take place, whether one likes it or not. Death of loved ones, childhood abuse, neglect, illness, and financial instability – all of these hardships are meant to test how strong our character and will to survive is.

Many people, instead of confronting their problems and fighting back, break under pressure. They escape to drugs, alcohol, junk food, TV series, and social media in an attempt to soothe pain and get temporary relief.

Sigma males understand that this is no way to live, and believe that they are destined for success no matter the circumstances. They don’t cry about what circumstances they’re born in, or how little they have at the moment.

Rather, they focus on what they can control: work ethic, focus, commitment, pursuits, discipline, and integrity.

Introverted men are extremely committed to their missions, never seeing permanent failure as an option. They adapt to situations, sacrifice comfort, and do everything in their power to preserve their dreams.

These flexibility, resilience, and adaptiveness help them succeed in difficult periods of life, beat challenges, and come out on top despite the odds.

5: They are Observant and Empathetic

Sigma males are observant people. They pay high attention to their surroundings, other people, and the world in general, gathering details that only a few people can see.

Aside from this, many introverted men went through difficult situations in life, which are the roots of their self-reliance, and what’s more important, empathy towards others.

Although they often don’t show it directly, sigma males care about people and things they go through. They just prefer to show their love and care through giving solutions, as they perceive it as the most correct way to deal with problems.

These qualities especially help sigma males in business. When normal people start a business, they often focus on their selfish desire to make money, without thinking about the needs or problems of their customers.

Sigma males stand out by analyzing their target buyers, identifying their pains, and providing specific solutions, which greatly builds their revenue and reputation. 

6: They Follow Their Own Principles

Finally, the last, and arguably, most distinctive personality trait of sigma males is that they carve their own path.

Most people are afraid to think for themselves, consider other perspectives, and challenge common ideas. They stick with the crowd and take advice from average people, never achieving anything great or significant.

Sigma males aren’t content with this lifestyle. Their ambition and drive cause them to rebel against the normal lifestyle, picking their own unique path in life.

Although these men encounter great resistance and discomfort in the moment, they eventually succeed, creating a life that they find fulfilling.

They aren’t afraid to be critical thinkers, voice their opinions, and confront the crowd, as it leads them to success and contentment with their existence.

9 Ways to Be a Sigma Male

Now that you know and understand sigma males, we can move on to helping you become one too. I highly recommend that you don’t make sigma your entire personality, and focus on integrating their positive traits into yours instead.

Now, let me share ways you can be a sigma male, and develop qualities that will catapult you to the top.

1: Find Yourself and Your Goals

Think of goals you want to achieve, both long-term and short-term. Ask yourself some difficult questions, like the ones below:

• Who am I?
• Who do I want to be?
• What are my strengths and weaknesses?
• What do I like doing?
• Which work am I competent at?
• Which work would I enjoy doing?
• What value do I want to bring to society?
• What problems did I overcome before?
• If I had a year left to live, what would I want to do?

I know, these questions are difficult, even scary to answer. But this is a necessary step you need to take to separate from the crowd. As long as you have no direction, you can’t move forward.

Most people live mindlessly, without being aware of who they are, what they want, and what they’re competent at. Before you begin doing any other practical steps in the article, dive deep into introspection.

You don’t necessarily have to do it in one sitting. Take some time, say, a week or two, and think about the questions above regularly.

When you have an introspection session, turn off all technology in the room, and put your phone somewhere you can’t see. Look at the questions from different perspectives, and journal about them in a notebook.

Once you’ve clearly defined who you are, what you want, and what your masculine purpose in life is, we can move on to the next step.

2: Quit Wasting Time on Futile Activities

Sigma males value their time, and prefer not to waste it on things that don’t bring value into their lives. To be a sigma male, you should find bad habits that make your life worse, and eliminate them for good.

Here are the bad habits you should look out for:

• Drinking alcohol
• Smoking weed and cigs
• Non-stop partying
• Watching porn
• Doom scrolling on social media
• Eating processed junk food
• Binge watching TV shows
• Excessive gaming (3+ hours per day)

These habits, although feel good and comfortable at the moment, make you stagnate and lose your potential.

Worst of all, they waste your most precious resource – time. It’s much better and fulfilling to spend it on meaningful work, hobbies, and relationships instead of indulging in extreme pleasure.

If you still have doubts, think about this: who do you think will make more progress in life? A guy who smokes, jerks off, and watches sports every evening, or a man who trains, reads, and works with focus?

Obviously, the latter wins. So, don’t make excuses, and cut out the bad habits from the list above.

Improve your self-control, remove triggers, and practice mindfulness for impulse management regularly. Find hobbies you can do to spend free time productively and distract yourself from temptations.

3: Spend More Time Alone to Be a Sigma Male

Many people can’t stand being alone. They think that it is boring, lonely, and that hanging out with friends is much more fun.

The real problem here isn’t being alone, but the perception of it. Solitude and loneliness are two different things: solitude is positive and productive, while loneliness is destructive and depressive.

Sigma males spend most of their time alone, working on their projects and engaging in meaningful hobbies. You should aim to do the same, and become your own best friend.

You can have a family, loyal friends, but if you aren’t content with being by yourself, you won’t be happy in general. That is why you should aspire to spend more time alone, develop habits that serve you, and learn more about yourself.

Spend 2-3 hours a day working deeply on the craft you love. Build good habits like meditation, reading, gratitude journaling, working out (more on that later), and do them every day.

It will feel uncomfortable at first. After a few weeks, though, you’ll get used to it, and start to enjoy it. Solitude, peace of mind, and progress are the rewards you get for pushing through loneliness and discomfort of discipline.

4: Think Critically and Rationally

Sigma males are people who adapt, create, solve, and live by their own rules. Not a single one of these traits can be developed without critical thinking.

Yes, it’s important to listen and consider other people’s perspectives. But if you blindly believe what people say without questioning a word, you’ll find yourself turning into an NPC with no unique thoughts, goals, or aspirations.

That is why you should spend at least 15 minutes a day on developing your critical thinking. Write down beliefs you have about yourself, other people, society, life, and other things you want to think about. Try to write as many beliefs as possible.

Then, think whether they’re actually true or not. Did you form these beliefs as a result of independent and multi-sided analysis? Or did you just adopt them without questioning the source?

Analyze your beliefs like this every day. Discard false beliefs, and always check if the information you consume is genuinely true.

Society needs people who think and act independently, without following the crowd all the time. Critical thinking is hard to master, but the effort you put into it always pays off.

5: Train and Develop Your Body

The world is filled with weak and unambitious men. They constantly complain and whine about their problems instead of seeking out solutions.

Worst of all, they sit at home all day long, consuming content and substances, without seeing sunlight or moving their bodies.

In many cases, one’s mental health suffers because of lack of movement and exercise. A weak body creates a weak mind, and when combined, they both ultimately lead to failure.

Exercise has tons of benefits, and if it were a remedy, people would pay billions to buy it. That is why you should dedicate at least 30 minutes a day to training.

Pick a sport you’d like to do regularly. Lift weights or do calisthenics 3-4 times a week. Run a kilometer every day. Dance and learn complex moves. Go hiking and explore your country’s nature. Whatever you want to do, just exercise and move your body.

A successful man is a strong man. A strong man is a disciplined man. Finally, a disciplined man is a man who challenges himself daily. So give yourself a daily challenge, even if you’re “tired after a long day of work.”

6: Take Responsibility and Rely on Yourself

Far too many people refuse to take responsibility. They complain about how they don’t have enough money, how their job sucks, or how the elites are to blame for all their problems.

Listen. Life is unfair. You will inevitably face obstacles, setbacks, uncomfortable conditions, and a lack of opportunities. The earlier you accept this fact and start relying on yourself, the better your life will be.

Waste no more time on shifting the blame. Ignore things out of your control, such as the economy, your boss, and opinions of others. Change your focus to what you can do:

Take responsibility for your actions, and recognize that they have consequences. Spend your day productively, and don’t give in to temptations. Whenever you face a problem, don’t seek for people to blame, but for solutions to implement.

Responsibility will not only make you effective at problem solving, but bring you inner peace, and earn the respect of others. Try your best to focus on your thoughts, actions, and stop blaming the environment.

7: Live by Your Own Rules to Be a Sigma Male

The majority of people are followers. They are afraid of thinking for themselves, questioning societal norms, and creating rules for themselves. For this reason, they prefer to stay in comfort of obedience and conformity.

As you already know, sigma males are the opposite. They are nonconformists who reject rules they don’t like, and replace them with ones that serve them.

While being outside of the dominance hierarchy does present its unique difficulties, they ultimately earn their freedom, prosper, and live the way they see fulfilling.

Do the same thing. Define what you like, dislike, and what you wouldn’t want to live with. Write down the list of rules and moral principles you’ll follow no matter what.

Following your own principles doesn’t mean that you’ll become a selfish, self-absorbed piece of shit. On the contrary: it will help you stand up for what’s right, stay true to your goals, and bring unique value to society.

Live how you see fit, work on your Mission, and do not let anyone slow your growth down. You can accelerate your growth in life by learning something new every day.

8: Learn Something New Every Day

Sigma males value knowledge and education. They seek new information on topics that interest them, take notes, and use it in various ways to complete important tasks.

Learning is a vital part of human experience. It doesn’t only increase your expertise, but helps your brain stay healthy by updating neurons and connections between them.

If you want to be an entrepreneur, constant learning has other benefits too. Markets are dynamic, and what works today often becomes irrelevant a few years from now. The more you learn, the more you earn.

Most people in our society quit educating themselves after graduating. According to a study, 42% of people never read another book after graduating from college. 80% of US families did not read or buy a book in the last year. And then they wonder why they’re so depressed, tired, and broke all the time.

Do not be like the masses. Expand your brain and knowledge base. Read at least 10-20 book pages a day, and work on learning a skill for 30 minutes a day. Try hobbies and activities you never did before, so that your brain develops holistically.

The strategies above will undoubtedly set you apart from the crowd, helping you develop and grow as a man. But to be a sigma male that gains respect, you also need to give it to others.

9: Treat Others With Respect to Be a Sigma Male

No matter how much money you earn, how muscular you are, or how much you know, you should still treat others with respect.

Regardless of a person’s age, gender, or social status, they still know something that you don’t. If you disrespect others and have a “know-it-all” attitude, you aren’t going to get far in life.

You can be confident in yourself while being respectful towards others. Truly confident people don’t feel the need to put others down, since they are secure and content with themselves.

One of the main parts of being a sigma male is getting feedback, analyzing yourself objectively, and admitting your mistakes. Only then can you truly grow and increase your value.

Listen to what others have to say, even if you disagree with them. Be proud of your accomplishments, compliment yourself, but be willing to feel the pain of making mistakes. Surround yourself with other masculine men to keep each other accountable.

Humility and respecting others are some of the most attractive qualities a man can have. By developing them, you’ll gain respect, guarantee lifetime success, and benefit society as a whole.

Frequently Asked Questions

How are sigma males different from alpha males?

Sigma males are more introverted, inward-focused, and unconcerned about social status, while alphas are more extroverted, outgoing, and socially active.

Are sigma males antisocial?

No, sigma males aren’t antisocial. They don’t look down on people or seek to harm them. Rather, sigma males simply prefer their own company, doing activities they find enjoyable.

Can anyone become a sigma male?

Yes, anyone can become a sigma male. It isn’t a fixed personality type that is determined at birth. It is a set of beliefs that can be cultivated through introspection, daily work, and experience.

Are sigma males toxic?

Sigma males aren’t inherently toxic. However, some of their qualities, like introversion and quiet confidence, are often misinterpreted as arrogance and narcissism, leading to the false belief that sigma males are toxic individuals.

Are sigma males attractive?

It varies from person to person. However, many sigma males possess qualities like confidence, self-reliance, discipline, and non-neediness, which can make them more attractive to women.

Can sigma males be successful in traditional leadership roles?

Sigma males usually prefer to work by themselves, without being constrained by external expectations. However, if necessary, they can be effective leaders who solve problems and motivate their subordinates.

Do sigma males have strong social networks and friendships?

Although sigma males prefer to be alone, they understand that they can’t navigate life all by themselves. This is why they put in effort to connect with useful people and cultivate relationships with them.

Summary

Most people are blind followers. They live average lives, achieve average results, and have average emotions: depression, anxiety, hopelessness, and weakness.

However, there are some men out there who go on a different path. They consciously pick a life of hardship, discipline, and virtue. Although it feels difficult initially, it ultimately leads to great success, fulfillment, and happiness later in life.

Sigma males possess different qualities, such as introversion, individualism, ambition, purpose, discipline, commitment, empathy, and intelligence, which help them achieve meaningful goals and be happy in life.

To be a sigma male, apply these strategies:

• Find yourself and your goals;
• Quit wasting time on bad habits;
• Spend more time in solitude;
• Think critically and rationally;
• Train and develop your body;
• Take responsibility and rely on yourself;
• Live by your own rules;
• Learn something new daily;
• Treat others with respect.

Being a sigma male and living a sigma lifestyle isn’t difficult, and the rewards you get for it are massive: meaning, happiness, progress, fulfillment, and personal freedom. It is worth putting in the effort.

Work hard, grow, and conquer. Your life’s in your hands, so make it worth living, brother.

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