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Tons of men struggle with gaining respect from others in our modern world. They get overlooked by girls, get teased by other men, and lose respect for themselves as a result. Often, they attempt to gain respect by being overly nice and kind to others. Unfortunately, they are often looked down upon and ignored.

What does it truly take to gain respect? How do you become someone that both others, and more importantly, you will like and be proud of?

In this article, I want to dive deep into reasons why some men struggle with getting respect, what mistakes they make, and offer you actionable strategies that will turn you into a masculine man everyone fears and respects.

Why Nice Guy Approach Doesn’t Work

Nice guys finish last. I know this, since I have once been a nice guy myself. I was a typical nerd who studied well and did his responsibilities, but struggled with friendship and relationships.

Often I tried to get approval and validation from other people by actively asking it and trying to be as nice as possible. Little did I know that it would only lead to bullying and harrassment from people whom I wished to please.

If you are a “nice guy” who constantly seeks approval, I can assure you that people will keep treating you like trash if you continue doing so. Individuals who seek respect and validation in exchange for doing nice things don’t come off as nice, but as questionable individuals who may have bad intentions and are extremely needy.

Those who belittle themselves, engage in passive-aggressive behavior, and give just to get back in return are excellent targets for those who want to take advantage of others. People often use nice guys and discard them as soon as they stop being useful.

If nice guy approach doesn’t work, then what does? How can you become an individual that is confident and respectable?

The Real Reason People Don’t Respect You

Respect isn’t as hard to get as many modern guys think. Unfortunately, many of them were brainwashed by the modern education system, some grew up without a father figure, and many don’t know how to acquire power or social status as a result.

The reality is simple. To gain respect as a man, you need to be dangerous. You need to have power, influence, confidence, and be effective. We will look at components of respect in detail, and I’ll offer you practical advice that will turn you into a beast everyone fears.

1: Learn to Fight

People often don’t command respect because they appear weak. They don’t project any power or force authority upon anyone, because they simply cannot do it.

Why would anyone fear a man who is timid and can’t fight back in case someone tries to take away his possessions? That’s right, there would be no reason to fear him.

You don’t necessarily need to become a world-class fighter, or be able to fight 5 men at the same time. But you need to know how to protect yourself and your loved ones in case someone tries to harm you or your family.

Other than this, fighting has tons of other benefits. You will be in a better shape and have lower body fat pecentage, which will make you leaner and more attractive. After a few months of fighting you will develop steel confidence, which will transform into a powerful aura everyone will feel. Regular exercise by fighting will keep your immune system and mood in a good state.

If people know that you can knock out their teeth and beat them up, they won’t even dare to mess with you. Learn how to fight, take, and land a punch. Sign into a boxing gym, or learn an effective martial art like Krav Maga, Muay Thai, or MMA. Practice on a regular basis and watch yourself become a masculine beast.

2: Build More Muscle

This point directly correlates with the previous one. People fear and respect those who are stronger than them, and who can kick their ass if needed. To gain respect you should look bigger than other men and have more muscle mass than them. Aside from boxing or doing MMA, you should also go to the gym and lift weights on a regular basis.

Use Pareto’s law and focus on the 20% of exercises that build the most muscle. Outside of the gym, focus on having enough sleep and eating a protein-rich diet.

Be honest: you want to be muscular and for other people to fear you. You have an innate desire within you to dominate, compete, destroy, and win. To succeed in the modern world, you need to reawaken this desire and dominate other men. The easiest place to start is physical training and being in shape.

Even though these physical habits are hard to start, they become enjoyable and natural once you gain momentum. More guides on fitness, dieting, and sleep will be made in the future.

3: Earn Tons of Money

There are 3 main ways you can earn big sums of income as a man.

• Become an entertainment influencer or a sportsman
• Get a high-paying job in a big corporation
• Build your own business and sell products

Not many individuals have a talent of singing or the ability to compete in sports. At the same time, it is pointless to spend years of your life to climb the corporate ladder, just for them to throw you away when you aren’t needed anymore.

The best way to earn significant amounts of money and gain more power is through entrepreneurship. Develop products that solve people’s problems and make the world better, gain an audience that will buy them, and distribute your products to the consuming masses.

Not only will you gain freedom to do whatever you want, but you’ll also gain respect for making people’s lives better and curing their pains. Find your purpose, and commit your life to solving problems that matter to you.

4: Have Options

People will respect you more if you have power and influence over them. One of the effective ways of doing this is by having multiple options and the ability to walk away.

Business partners will fear and respect you if you have other more profitable deals. This will force them to showcase as many benefits as possible and maintain communication with you.

Same thing is present in romantic life: if you have several women who desire you, they will be more attracted to you, and they will losing you to potentially better partners.

You can gain options by leveling up as a man and building up your authority. Grow your business, muscle mass, physical attractiveness, and grow your social circle. Be willing to walk away and stand up for yourself if the other party is rude towards you.

The more opportunities and powerful connections you have, the less other people will want to fuck around with you. Keep that in mind.

5: Practice Silence More

A lot of people in this world talk on a constant basis. They give out all the information about themselves, their plans, ambitions, strengths, and weaknesses, until life punishes them by making a friend stab them in the back, or making them witness someone else achieve rewards they always wanted.

If you want power, respect, and masculine aura, you should do the opposite: practice silence more. Speak less than necessary, and stay silent about your intentions or goals. Conserve your energy and use it to grind in silence while everybody else is partying.

Some people will try to criticize you for being obsessed with the grind, or shame you for not wanting their attention and validation like everyone else. Fuck them.

Most people aren’t happy with their lives because they spend too much time talking and being with other people. Shut the noise out for 6 months, and work hard on your masculine purpose. They will criticize your grind, but praise you when you achieve your goals. Remember that.

6: Build Presence

Think of a powerful masculine man, and the way he walks into the room. What does he do? Does he walk in with a poor posture, no eye contact, and seems to be in his own head? Or does he walk in with a straight back and an aura or presence?

Obviously, the second option is correct. Presence helps you be charismatic, as you pay more attention to other people and what they have to say. While everyone else sits distracted on their phones, you listen actively and let them know that they are valued and respected.

To gain respect, you must also demonstrate respect to others. The best way to do this is to be in the Moment and pay full attention to the person you’re talking to.

Aside from social benefits, presence has tons of other advantages for you too. You will be more effective at your work, as you’ll be in the flow state more often and have sharp focus without distractions. You will be happier, as you’ll witness the beauties of life without negative thoughts interrupting your experience.

Build presence by meditating on a regular basis and observing the Present Moment. Even though it’ll be hard at first, it will pay off massively in the long run.

7: Learn New Things

Powerful and influential people know much about life. They can tell causes of people’s problems, solve them, and cure their pains. This is why people respect and look up to them, picking them as their role models.

On the contrast, you and I have little respect for uneducated fools who follow trends just to fit in. Such people sacrifice their dignity and self-respect to fit in the masses and feel safe at the cost of their own authenticity and wellbeing. Don’t be like them.

Learn something new every day. Read inspiring books about self-improvement and other topics that might interest you. Seek knowledge that will improve your personal life, finances, relationships, and overall worldview by visiting blogs and libraries.

The more you know, the more ways of solving problems you’ll find, and the more people will see you as an authority figure that they can ask advice from.

8: Experience Life

Happiest people are often the ones who experienced it all. Old men who participated in wars, ruled countires, and built businesses gain respect, because they offer tons of value. They have many interesting stories to share, and can offer high-quality advice depending on the situation a person is currently in.

Instead of sitting in your home all day and doing destructive habits, go outside more and work on things that will bring you success in the long run. Climb a mountain, ask a girl out on a date, start a business that can change your life. Face your fears and experience discomfort.

The more suffering you go through, the more you transform into an individual that is strong, confident, and valuable to the tribe. Doing hard things makes life easy, while doing easy things makes life harder.

Make sure that after 50 years you look back with pride and gratitude, and not with regret and sadness like most people do.

9: Be a Non-Conformist

Finally, to gain respect, you must stay away from trends and follow your own path. 90% of people don’t project respect, because they follow the crowd and sacrifice their true identity.

They overuse memes, buy new clothes, talk about newest movies, or get new haircuts every month, because they want others to like them. They want to be loved and accepted, even at the cost of doing things they don’t actually want to do.

There is nothing inherently wrong with following new trends, but there is a big difference between genuinely enjoying them and doing them to gain validation and approval.

Prioritize your own wants, desires, dreams, and ambitions. Follow your own path and don’t allow the environment to dictate who you are and what you can achieve, for it often wishes to keep you in mediocrity that kills people’s soul.

Summary

Most men don’t get respect, and suffer heavily because of it. They are often nice guys that sacrifice their needs and desires for the sake of pleasing others, and are used to get discarded once they’re no longer useful.

To gain respect and make people fear you, you must implement the following strategies:

• Learn to fight and protect yourself;
• Go to the gym and build muscle;
• Make money through business;
• Gain more options by increasing your value;
• Practice silence more;
• Work on your goals without telling others;
• Build Presence by meditating;
• Learn more about the world by reading;
• Experience life and face your fears;
• Live life authentically and do not conform.

If you implement these powerful strategies, I guarantee you: people will look up to you and respect you for the value you can provide.

Start small and learn how to build good habits that will make you a better man. Success is achieved through consistent process. Take action and embrace the journey, for it is the true rewards that most men seek.

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