The men of today are struggling. They’re becoming weak, submissive, indecisive, struggling to find their purpose in the modern world.

Instead of helping men with their issues, encouraging them to change, and offering help, society belittles them, saying that they’re worthless and serve no role.

Having no meaning or happiness in their existence, many men escape to instant gratification. Junk food, social media, drugs, porn – all of these provide a comfortable escape from constant thoughts of nihilism.

It doesn’t have to be this way. Believe it or not, there is another life: a life of virtue, happiness, fulfillment, progress, and freedom. You can learn to stop being a feminine man and change yourself for the better.

If you refuse to be average and numb yourself with addictions, you’ve come to the right place. In this article, I’ll tell you why men have become so feminine, and how you can awaken your masculine potential. Let’s begin.

Reasons Modern Men Are so Feminine

Before you learn to develop masculinity, we should first discuss why modern men are struggling in the first place.

At a first glance, it can seem that addictions and bad habits are the main reasons for men’s feminization. That is not entirely true.

What many people don’t tell you is that bad habits and addictions aren’t the main problem, but the symptom of larger, more sinister issues. The biggest one of them is poor mental health.

1: Poor Mental Health

Life in the modern world is stressful for many. Work obligations, bills, debt, relationship problems, childhood trauma – all these stressors compound and drain joy out of men.

Modern men have to bear chronic loneliness, anxiety, and depression. They are told to stay silent about their struggles, keep being wage slaves, and accept the pathetic lives they have.

By default, no man is satisfied with a lack of brotherhood, freedom, love, and money. But they take that desire away from us by shoving medication, junk food, video games, and modern addictions into our faces, saying that “it’s okay to have fun!”

It isn’t. More and more men are losing hope, dying at a young age, and even killing themselves without having accomplished anything.

Poor mental health and mediocrity cause stagnation, mental illness, complacency, and stunt our natural development as men. Aside from mediocre lifestyles and bad habits, another big reason for mental health problems is a lack of purpose and direction.

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2: Lack of Goals and Ambition

The foundation of masculine energy is ambition and proactivity. We are designed to pursue goals, go through pain, overcome obstacles, and reach goals that benefit ourselves and our tribes.

Family, religion, and community have been strong for thousands of years, giving men a reason to live, work, and push through adversity. Even though our ancestors had terrible living conditions by today’s standards, they were happy.

They had families to feed, problems to solve, empires to build, beloved Homelands to protect. The modern men, however, have none of that.

Community has been eradicated by urbanization and social media, making us more connected, but separated at the same time. Religion has declined over the years, taking meaning away from millions of people worldwide.

Modern society has made it hard for men to find meaning in today’s world, where almost every person is just another cog in the corporate machine that lives for nothing.

Aside from the stress and anxiety of your current life, one of the biggest reasons you feel like shit is that you aren’t making progress. You have no goals to pursue, no Mission to accomplish, no quest to complete.

If you aren’t making progress, you’re slowly but surely descending into the pits of mediocrity, where life isn’t great, but isn’t too unbearable either. Life kind of sucks, but it still has temporary pleasures to soothe the pain of meaninglessness.

3: Propaganda of Weakness and Degeneracy

Finally, the last and most significant reason for masculinity’s decline is modern propaganda. From a young age, you were conditioned to be weak and live life in a constant state of fear and despair.

The school system suppresses masculine qualities in boys, forcing them to sit in one place for hours, learning things they’ll never use. Meanwhile, social media feeds users with degenerate content that provides no value and destroys people’s attention spans.

Mainstream media, influencers, and political figures scream that all masculinity is toxic and that traditional qualities like discipline, hard work, stoicism, and courage are bad for society. They tell men that it’s okay to be weak, waste time, and remain complacent.

Video games encourage us to make more progress in the virtual world while escaping the discomfort of suffering the pain of achievement in the real world. Porn takes away our primal urges to impregnate women, lowering our testosterone and drive.

Modern men live in a world unfriendly to their Inner Nature and true desires. Only a few men manage to preserve their masculinity, while the rest become weaker and weaker over time.

Even though great damage has been done to you, it isn’t permanent. Now that you know the main sources of the problem, you can learn how to stop being a feminine man and reclaim your masculine drive for achievement.

How to Stop Being a Feminine Man

Societal conditioning and modern addictions have made you weak, depressed, lazy, and unambitious. But you can change that.

There are specific steps you can take to reverse the damage and become the man you want to be.

The first and most important thing you must do is find goals to pursue.

1: Set Ambitious Goals and Obsess Over Them

Life is a series of moments. It is a curve containing events, processes, and actions that, ultimately, either lead you to a good life or ruin your chances of being happy altogether.

As said before, the problem with most modern people is that they don’t have any worthy goals to pursue. Instead of finding their own direction, writing their own story, and creating things of use, they waste time on instant gratification to soothe the pain of nihilism.

Let me tell you something: we’re all going to die one day. No matter how much scientists try to delay death and increase longevity, ultimately, all of us will die a hundred years from now.

You only have one attempt to live happily, and this attempt is shorter than you think. Think of dreams you had as a kid, work you would love to do, and things you would do as a free man. Write 3 of them down on paper.

After finding your masculine purpose in life, think of specific things you can do every day to achieve it. If you want to earn $10k a month or more with your business, start saving money, learning product development, marketing, and creating your own website.

If you want to become a great writer, spend 1 hour a day on crafting articles, short stories, and, once you get used to writing, move on to bigger formats.

Find out who you are, what you want from life, and focus your thoughts on achieving goals. This step alone will help you stop being a feminine man and get you out of the rut you’re in right now.

2: Take Responsibility for Your Life to Stop Being a Feminine Man

Far too many people refuse to take responsibility. Instead of accepting mistakes, learning from them, and making the necessary changes to improve, they shift blame to others.

They constantly whine about how they live a shitty life because of their parents, government, friends, and companies they work in, but never themselves.

Listen. Life isn’t fair, and not everyone is born in perfect circumstances. But that is not an excuse to complain, blame, and never do anything about the situation.

Recognize that your life is your responsibility, and that no one is obliged to make you rich and happy. Think of areas of life where you aren’t successful, and say to yourself that you can fix the situation.

Start learning skills that will make you more self-reliant and competent. Learn basic repair, do your laundry, and clean your house, instead of paying someone else to do it. Offer help to people on the street when they need it.

Do everything you can to be more responsible, for responsibility creates strong, courageous, and reliable people.

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3: Work on Your Limiting Beliefs to Increase Your Masculinity

The system has implanted tons of limiting beliefs inside your mind. It told you that you aren’t good enough, that money is the root of evil, and that all masculinity is toxic.

This time, instead of simply accepting these statements as facts, question them. Ask yourself if you really are as worthless, pathetic, or dumb as you were told you are.

You likely don’t realize this now, but your beliefs ultimately manifest in the physical world. If you, for example, believe that you can build muscle and enjoy the process of lifting weights, you’ll make progress faster than if you did it with skepticism.

To stop being a feminine man, practice journaling regularly. Write down your main beliefs about yourself, other people, and life in general. Identify the limiting beliefs that sabotage and keep you in your comfort zone.

Then, think about whether these beliefs are actually true with a clear head. If they are false and make your life worse, replace them with the opposite ones of faith and encouragement. Enforce these new beliefs with affirming actions, and repeat that you are a good person.

For example, if you used to think that you’re a lazy person, start by making your bed, doing just 15 minutes of work, and complimenting yourself for little achievements.

You are worthy, and you can achieve ambitious goals. But for that to happen, you need to get comfortable being uncomfortable.

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4: Sacrifice Comfort and Meaningless Pleasure

Comfort is the killer of man. The longer you stay in one comfortable place, the more you stagnate and rot without progress.

Unfortunately, that is the case for many modern men. Instead of challenging themselves, going through pain, work, and struggle, they prefer not to begin the journey. They lock themselves up in their rooms, wasting their potential on porn, weed, and video games.

All change requires discipline and sacrifice. To reach the same level of courage, masculinity, and fulfillment as your ancestors, you should greatly reduce comfort in your life.

Cancel your Netflix subscription, and stop drinking alcohol. Delete social media, and put your gaming console in the attic. Throw all the junk food out of your house. Buy workout equipment and put it in a visible place.

Do everything you can to change your environment, so that it encourages growth instead of luring you back to comfort and mediocrity.

As a man, you either suffer now for a better future or have fun today for a worse tomorrow. I hope you pick the former, for regret hurts more than discipline.

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5: Build Habits of Growth and Discipline to Stop Being a Feminine Man

Now, how exactly do you embrace discomfort and discipline? The only way to do this is by building good habits and working every day.

Meditating, reading books, working out, and fully focusing on the task – these things are harder to do than just scrolling on TikTok.

However, unlike bad habits, good habits build up your character. They make you more resilient, focused, disciplined, and wise, and give you the skills necessary for success.

Good habits done every day compound over time, creating results that only a few people can experience. That is why you should focus on doing them as consistently as possible.

Start meditating for 3 minutes, reading 5 book pages, and working out for 15 minutes daily. These 3 simple actions will help you build initial discipline and confidence, allowing you to achieve bigger results later in life.

When you come home from work or school, instead of numbing yourself as usual, spend time on reading insightful books, learning a new hobby, journaling about your day, and working on the goals you’ve set in step 1.

It will be uncomfortable in the first few weeks. Once you pass that barrier, though, you’ll start enjoying the good habits. More specifically, you’ll enjoy the pride, presence, peace, tranquility, energy, and confidence that come with living a disciplined lifestyle.

6: Erase Degenerate Influences to Stop Being a Feminine Man

The modern world is full of bullshit propaganda. Governments, influencers, and so-called “experts” tell young men that they are worthless, useless, and that traditional masculine values are toxic.

The world needs men. Millions of us work in construction, the military, business, and other spheres, risking our lives, comfort, and bringing value to society.

Without traditional men, we wouldn’t have technological advancements, sophisticated infrastructure, and the basic comfort of civilization we enjoy today.

Do not listen to overweight, unhappy, unsuccessful people who tell you that you should conform and be like everyone else. To develop masculine qualities, cut out degenerate influences.

Unsubscribe from channels and social media influencers that bring zero value into your life. Consume more content that helps you learn, grow, and overcome your past self.

Although it’s easy to find and abandon degenerate content, there is still a risk that you may get fooled. Masculine men think for themselves and stay true to their beliefs. That is why you should start thinking critically.

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7: Think Critically and Deeply

Critical thinking is the skill of questioning information you hear, analyzing the topic objectively, and making your own conclusions.

There have been many instances in history when people followed others blindly, without asking if what they say is actually true.

As we all know, it led to wars, corruption, genocide, and other horrible acts committed by charismatic people who spread nonsense but delivered it exceptionally.

This world needs critically thinking people who can find causes of problems, target them with great solutions, and spot lies in the flow of information. Deep thinking makes you masculine, as it helps you achieve your purpose and bring value to society.

Think about common problems, beliefs, narratives, and the nature of life for 15 minutes a day. Ask yourself why you and society believe in certain things.

Question the information you consume (including this article) and make conclusions based on objective truths. This way, you’ll avoid getting scammed or fooled and stay true to your values.

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8: Express Gratitude Daily to Stop Being a Feminine Man

Speaking about pursuing purpose: your goals should be important, and you should aim to work towards them daily. However, in the process of working, you shouldn’t take what you have for granted.

The Western world has become flooded with people who constantly complain. They talk about how they aren’t paid well enough, how they are oppressed, and how they supposedly aren’t free.

Idiots. You do realize that there are hundreds of millions of people who have it harder than you? They struggle to get water, food, shelter, and pray to survive another day, while they sit in comfort and whine about “being oppressed.”

Our society has become less about “give and give back.” All people want now is to take, take, and take, thinking they deserve everything. Don’t be like them.

Masculine people express gratitude, do not complain about their circumstances, and use what they have to move forward. Start gratitude journaling: from now on, write 5 things you’re grateful for every morning.

Gratitude is scientifically proven to create happiness, abundance, and increase satisfaction with life. Express it on a daily basis, and you’ll stop being a feminine man.

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The Bottom Line

Masculinity is in crisis. Men are being conditioned to be weak, submissive, complacent, and live in mediocrity. Many of them give up on life, escape to the comfort of addictions, or even erase themselves from the face of Earth.

Poor mental health, lack of meaning in men’s lives, and woke propaganda are the main reasons so many of us struggle.

To stop being a feminine man and reclaim your masculinity, use these strategies:

• Find your purpose and set ambitious goals;
• Take responsibility for your life;
• Journal and discard limiting beliefs;
• Sacrifice comfort and bad habits;
• Build habits of growth and discipline;
• Erase degenerate influences;
• Think critically about problems;
• Express gratitude daily.

Ultimately, it all comes down to doing simple things consistently. Reduce the time you spend on instant gratification. Instead of wasting it as usual, invest it in meditating, lifting weights, and working on a craft you’re passionate about.

These strategies will be uncomfortable now, but over time, they will bring results you dream about: a muscular body, good mental health, unshakeable confidence, and a sense of purpose.

Focus on your health, work hard, develop your mind, and keep growing. Good luck on your journey, brother.

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