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In recent years, more and more weak and feminine men started to appear in our world that never stop complaining. Their lives suck, and instead of taking action to improve their situation, they bitch and whine all day long, accusing everyone of causing their problems, not understanding that they are the main reason of their misery.

They spend 8 hours a day working on a shitty job, have regular fights with their shitty girlfriend, get high every weekend with their shitty friends. Despite having such an unhealthy and self-destructive lifestyle, they always complain about how it’s always someone else’s fault:

• “I feel like shit all day long, I wanna stop existing”
• “My boss is such a bitch, he didn’t give me that promotion I wanted!”
• “Life’s so hard! I wish the government paid me more money!”

Ew, I fucking hate it when people complain. Why is this the case? Social media, porn, junk food, video games, single parent households – all these factors cotributed to making the modern boys and men weaker and impotent versions of themselves.

Analyzing how exactly should we combat these modern addictions, laziness, and societal conditioning, however, isn’t our primary goal at the moment. In this article, I will tell you 5 truths and strategies to help you to stop complaining and victimizing yourself.

1: Take Responsibility

This is the most important part. People never stop complaining about how it’s his, her, their, or any-other-dude’s fault, because they refuse to take responsibility for their actions and decisions.

They eat tons of junk food, sit their ass on a couch, watch TikTok for 3 hours after work, smoke cigarettes, vape, get drunk 2 times a week, and yet they still complain that they feel like shit!

Even worse is when they whine about how their boss pays them little money, and how they supposedly can’t afford to live a healthier lifestyle.

Listen, everyone faces certain challenges that make it harder to achieve wanted results. That is not, however, a reason to complain and shift responsiblity to someone else.

Your life is largely determined not by external circumstances, but by your own decisions.

Make Better Choices

If you fucked a girl at a party and got her pregnant, it is the result of choices that you consciously made up until this point. Choice to go to the party instead of working on a project. Decision to hook up with a girl who had countless red flags. Choice to have sexual contact with her without using a condom.

If you have little money and are broke, it too is the result of continuous dumb choices. Choice to play video games after school instead of studying. Clear decision to cheat on exams instead of preparing for them properly. Choice to waste limited money on partying and luxury items instead of saving it for later. Choice to pursue a dead-end job instead of finding better alternatives.

No matter where you are in life, your life is the way it is because you made it so. This isn’t to blame you entirely for your current life situation, but to make you realize that you can turn your life around and make a change. Cut unnecessary spending, save up 10% of your income, adopt new good habits and dump old degenerate ones.

Stop blaming others, take responsibility, and improve your daily choices.

2: Find a Direction to Move Towards

Every man must have a star in the sky that they’ll follow daily. This star is an important mission that gives meaning to your life, and that gives you a reason to get out of bed and grind relentlessly. If a man doesn’t have such star, he has no power, no reason to move or progress.

This causes stagnation, misery, dissatisfaction, and, you’ve guessed it right – constant complaining. If you truly want to succeed and stop being a victim to everyone else, you must find your masculine purpose.

You must find a mission so strong and powerful that it can motivate you to make progress and do the hard work, especially when you don’t feel like it.

Tell me: can a man be a victim if he knows exactly what he wants out of life, and puts in all the effort needed to get in here? No. People only complain when they feel like they and their lives are meaningless and make no difference.

Find your purpose and grind towards it every day without excuses.

3: Practice Gratitude

If you’ve ever experienced genuine happiness in your life, you’ve also felt gratitude for a certain thing.

Maybe you were grateful for your family, friends, nature, home, or a great event, such as getting a job, or finishing high school. Happiness causes gratitude to appear automatically.

However, research shows that this patter goes both ways: feeling more grateful can make you feel happier. Why? Each time you whine or complain about things not being the way you want them to be, you feel lack. Lack creates dissatisfaction, which is the opposite of happiness.

Each time you feel gratitude for something, you experience abundance. Abundance causes happiness, because it signals that you already have what’s needed.

To stop complaining and victimizing yourself, start being more grateful.

Buy yourself a notebook and write down 3-5 gratitude statements here every morning:

• I’m grateful for my home.
• I’m grateful for my family.
• I’m grateful for my job.
• I’m grateful for nature.
• I’m grateful for water and fresh air.

Doesn’t seem too hard, right? Try gratitude journaling for just 2 weeks, and see how much happier you’ll feel with your life.

4: Lift Heavy Weights

What is the one common trait that is present in all losers, and complainers with victim mentality? They are all weak, both physically and mentally.

They never got to experience what it’s like when your muscles hurt, or when you’re in a truly difficult life situation. Weak men overindulge in comfort, waste their time and potential, and then wonder why life doesn’t offer them their dreams on a golden plate like in a 5 star hotel.

Listen. Life is difficult, and to succeed in it, you must put in the effort that no one else is willing to put in. You must work so hard that you experience legitimate burnouts.

You need to armor your mind and prepare it for future trials and tribulations. There is no better way to achieve this other than through good old physcial training, for when you push past your limits during a set of bench press or squats, you prove to yourself that you are more capable than you think.

When you witness what you’re truly capable of, you have no more reasons to complain: if an issue arises, you can solve it with your own efforts.

Start weightlifting and work out your muscles regularly, at least 3-4 times a week. Train hard and put in the effort, so that after a few months, you become a new great person with a better physique, and what’s more important, a better mind.

You just can’t complain when you have strength and confidence in doing the hard work. So go ahead and do it!

5: Take a Cold Shower

Cold showers are a great way of turning pussies into better men.

After you finish reading this article, go into your bathroom, turn the know all the way to the cold side, and enjoy the stream of freezing water falling down on your body.

Cold showers develop discipline, self-control, and enrench you deeply in the present moment, boosting your work capabilities, focus, and charisma.

Other than that, they help clean the skin, improve the immune system’s work, and wake you up, so that you can start your day nice and fresh.

Different excuses will pop up in your mind. To stop complaining, you must ignore the bullshit thoughts and step into the cold water anyway. After 30 seconds, you will even start enjoying the water!

“How is this advice relevant to stopping victim mentality?”, you’ll ask. What cold showers do to you on the level of mindset is that they help you defeat mental conditioning and kill excuses that appear inside your head. Therefore, over time, they slowly but surely improve your ability to put in the necessary effort to solve problems, even when you feel like crying and pitying yourself.

It doesn’t matter if winter is outside, or if you always took warm showers before. As soon as you finish reading the article, kill all excuses and jump into the water.

Summary

In conlusion, there are following main strategies to stop being a complaining victim:

Stop blaming others, take responsibility, improve your daily choices, find your purpose, practice gratitude, lift heavy weights, and kill excuses through taking cold showers.

You now have all the information necessary to stop being a pussy and do something about your situation. Will you implement it? It’s only up to you, my reader. Ask yourself these 2 questions:

• Have I been acting like a pathetic victim in the last two weeks?
• If yes, how can I change the thing I’m not content with?

If you have any questions, or want to leave your opinion about the post, feel free to do so in the comments. See you next time.